Grace Jee on December 5th, 2012

       By:    Gary Chapman   The reason attitude is so important is that they affect my behavior and words.   I may not be able to control my environment: sickness, alcoholic spouse, teenager on drugs, aging parents, etc. but I am responsible for what I do within my  environment.   My attitude will [...]


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Grace Jee on November 18th, 2012

    By:  Gary Chapman   Our Mentality   Remember when we were kids and our parents told us to share?   Why was that so hard?   Well if we thought it was hard to share our toys it’s even harder to share our money.   When you get married it’s time for a [...]

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    By:   Gary Chapman   For the past thirty years in Western Society we have given undue emphasis to emotions.   When applied to a troubled marriage, this philosophy advises, “If you don’t have love feelings, admit it and get out of the marriage.”   “If you feel hurt and angry, you would be [...]

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    By:   Gary Chapman   I cannot change others, but I can influence others, how true is this!   It’s true, you cannot change your spouse, but you can and do influence your spouse every day.   If you are still trying to change your spouse, then you are probably a master manipulator.   [...]

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    By:   Gary Chapman   I am responsible for my own attitude.   Trouble is inevitable, but misery is optional.   Attitude has to do with the way I choose to think about things.   Two wives have husbands who have lost their jobs.   Wendy said, “My husband hasn’t had a full-time job [...]

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Grace Jee on September 29th, 2012

    By:   Dr Gary Chapman   Selfishness is the greatest barrier for an intimate relationship, and we are all infected with the disease.   By nature we all believe that our way is the best way. There is only one right way to load a dishwasher and that’s my way. One wife said:  “My [...]

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Grace Jee on September 15th, 2012

    By:   Dr Gary Chapman   If you entered marriage believing that you could merge lives effortlessly, the first thing you need to do is change your expectations. The truth is, living together requires many adjustments.   Remember this is not like trying to put up with a college roommate or the person splitting [...]

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